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You have to look at these sites in the right way. It is like finding a needle in a haystack, but love is worth it! There are some good, kind, decent, financially secure men on these sites. You have to screen everyone carefully. First, messaging back and forth on the site, then phone calls, and finally meeting in a public place. Sometimes you meet a decent guy and there is just no chemistry. People have to connect on multiple levels for love to occur.
I have fallen in love twice from guys I met on Match. One relationship lasted two years, until he moved out of state to take care of his son who had become chronically ill. He is now in a relationship, but we remained friends. He was widowed and understood how long term, loving relationships work. He had been divorced for 13 years and admitted he had had many girlfriends. I had some amazing experiences and memories.
It gave me the confidence that even in my senior years I can attract men and the possibility exists for the right one to come along. In the meantime, I go on with my life. That would be my choice, if I had the money. I remember personal ads from my single days. At least with those ads, people had to make an effort to actually write a letter responding to your ad.
I have been divorced for 25 years. I have dated a lot and then go for a period of years without dating. After the last year on eharmony and Match I have to say Match worked best for me. But my experience has been that ladies 59 are not ready for a relationship. The last lady said she was not ready for a relationship and we had not even met!!
The previous one was on and off again for 6 months. Said she still had feelings for a man she had an affair with after her divorce. So I will try again. Here in Denver there were many ladies pictures and profiles that were no longer actually using the site. The selection for me to consider was very small in number. The company tried make it seem lively by E-mailing me if a lady in another state even viewed my profile.
This to me was meaningless and intrusive. They do have accessible customer service which i appreciated. They pro rated my account and did refund a portion of my money, which I appreciated. Again, they have been accused of keeping expired profiles up to try to make it appear that their membership is larger than it actually is. At full price, they are pricey although they do have some price drops.
I could not make it work for me. Someone viewing my profile every other week from another state just does not do it for me. Maybe if you broadened your horizons some and ask for Some that are older are young at heart and think maybe 20 years younger than their chronological age… Never say never, besides age is really only a number.
You can find chemistry where you may least expect to find it. Look at Donald Trump, his wife is like 20 years or so younger than he is. I know a guy who is 16 years older than his wife, and another couple where the women is Have neighbor married to a man 7 years younger than she is, so it must work.
From some of the comments, the results and frustrations of either male or female are mirror images! I have only been dating about 4 years and divorced for 15, everyone has a different schedule as to when they are ready for a myriad of reasons.
It never occurred to me that may be looked upon as a negative, after separation and divorce work, friends and family were the routines that helped me find myself again. A necessary step I think to proceed moving to another relationship without hauling a ton of baggage! Always something new to learn. Many times I have thought of giving up, this is so hard a direct opposite to the first time when everyone you met was attractive and ambitious! I do think that someone you share experiences with ages gradually in your eyes and not like my situation of suddenly realizing while I was just living, everyone else had gotten old, LOL!
And yes, I did take a good look in the mirror, I am old too! Like everyone, I never expected to be looking or needing a new relationship. Many men my age definitely bought into the cliche of as long as you are trading in, you might as well go for the newest model!
It is logical from their standpoint but will not sustain a lasting relationship when it is a onesided one. So I continue to look, just as everyone for that one needle. Maybe they are out there and maybe not but I am content with where I am and no regrets on taking my time.
I would only consider a younger man on a temporary relationship…that one made me giggle! So maybe older men are looking for a younger woman in the same aspect, they just think it sounds better if they say they are looking for a relationship. Hello Gail, My name is William, I will love to know more about you. Please send me an email to enable us get to know each other. I hate those jerks and thankful that I learned with reading about their devious manipulations.
I truly believe there must not be a way to escape this situation. Heck, I took a several years break and it has just become worse. I hate the lonliness, feeling somewhat helpless and hate that at this stage in life we are having to deal with these CREEPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Getting to try online dating for the first time,whom ever interested in getting to know each other,kindly respond and we can take it from there,hoping to hear from someone soon.
The free dating sites are better since most of the profiles in the fee-based sites were placed by non-payers just so they could conduct profile searches. Very cluttered, redundant automatic responses like photo, flirt etc etc. Worst is that they let people post a profile with no picture. Takes a lot of time to delete the duds.
So not worth it! I am from Uganda and I am 58 years. I have visited some of these sites but I have not received good response. I am sure so many women from Africa have painted a very back picture of Africans. I am a decent woman in full time employment and I am just looking for a soul mate especially as we grow old we tend to get so lonely. I am looking for a mature gentleman whom I can laugh and share with.
I enjoy listening to country music. I received responses from men who are younger than me and that is not what I was looking for. I tried reaching old men of my age but all of them want ladies who are between 18 — 25 years old. Daphne I totally agree with you. I myself just turned 66 and looking between 60 to 70 but I was shocked the first time I saw a 64 yr man looking for 18 to 35 yr range and now I see it all the time.
How they even consider that age. Compared to us they are looking for a child. There is nothing wrong with being short. I am a real animal lover and have been a widow for 20 years. I just live alone with my furry babies who talk Husky.
I live in So Ca and wish I was somewhere up in the mountains. I love pine trees. I am a polite lady who believes in God and has a very good relationship with J. It sucks being alone but so be it. Maybe someday I will meet someone who likes the outdoors as much as I do.
Love long walks on the beach with an intelligent man to talk to. I am looking for that special best friend that I had with my husband years ago when we were young. No drinking for me or drugs just a good lady that has good manners. If you live anywhere by me send me a note and maybe we can get to be good friends and who knows. Maybe one or two of my fur babies. Huskies are very beautiful and talkers. But so am I. Good luck in your search for that good best friend.
My name is William, I will love to know more about you. Where are the older gentlemen?. We seniors can be lonely and need someone to be with. For me that would be a GOD send. I would absolutely devote my time to making a man that wanted to be with me feel special, wanted, needed and loved. I hope that happens. Good luck with whatever you are seeking. Oh, I must add that I am male.
For females dating sites in general are quite different. Some of the messages, I am told, are lewd or just plain poorly written. However, they also receive numerous messages from gentlemen like myself. Most women because they are in demand on these sites, will ignore the vast majority of messages, regardless of their quality. Men will be scrutinized and rejected more than in regular every day life.
That said, it seems none of the sites really have you in mind. They practice deception to gain your money and that is their only bottom line. Now as a male you can be persistent and you may be fortunate. I met a lady and dated her this afternoon. It was nice and has potential. I did not give up with all the illogical rejections I have to experience.
As women are less in numbers on these sites the sky is the limit for what they want. I am 9 years younger than her and I am in top shape.
You must be a tall man or it becomes even less hopeful. I am average height so I am aware of this. No guarantees, little logic. I would not recommend it. They are only about bringing in money. They are not service oriented. Hey, curious to know what happened with the 74 yr. If she is affectionate, can still make you happy and feel good, if you have any chemistry with her then what does age have to do with it anyway. Women 60 and over are usually lonely and are willing to stay with you for the duration of whatever it takes, until you or she passes on.
I am interested in a man between say 60 and That is a 15 year span of time. They have a 10 year old son remember.
AGE is only a number and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder…Live and learn. I have was married for 17 yrs and divorced now for two years. I had done a decent profile with decent pictures and verified myself on some of them.
I contacted a few people who were nothing like their pictures. I discovered that alot of women like to post pictures that make them look 15 to 20 years younger then they get upset when we men are surprised when we actually meet them.
Even though I am gainfully employed and a retired veteran, I still cannot afford to travel to Europe or extensive traveling by plane. For those who are tired of no responses on dating sites, you can try the meetup. I would just like to express that as far as the traveling aspect that you mentioned, I think for example traveling to France or Eastern European countries is something that should be held for later on as a relationship is extremely serious, possibly marriage, that being said I think it would be a we thing and it would be the responsibility of the relationship to have the financial means to do such things, otherwise I would think traveling locally would be more than sufficient.
There are plenty of places and things to see within the United States. I personally prefer those who are more my height then having to look straight up to the ceiling or crawl up on the latter for a kiss, you cannot change your height nor can you change your age, I personally have come across The opposite where only men seem to want very tall women. I applaud you for trying these dating sites, I believe it takes a lot of confidence and alot of guts.
And saying this I would ask you a question what dating site or sites would you highly recommend versus others? Suppose everyone has a criteria-getting to know someone first, should be first. I have taken a break from the online dating scene. Seems like at times I keep attracting women who I later find out are married. Needless to say I am taking a break and focusing on me.
Anyway whenever I feel ready to date again, you the online sites I would prefer are Match. Too far for me. For Austin, Tx there are too many young college folks here so it can limit choices for mature men like me. As a fellow male you make perfect sense. However, with numbers in their favor, women want it to be just perfect, as they are all entitled. They want an alpha male to tower over them, their mythical hero should be protective of them.
I tried internet dating. Could not appeal to attractive ladies. I did meet and date some nice ladies but they were not attractive. They still had their choice of men it seemed.
I am now going to save myself the grief and remain alone. Probably not, cannot count on it, but maybe , just maybe, I will meet a lady by chance or someone will introduce me to someone. I have to say not all women are that way. There are some of us that are good. When I first start seeing someone, I think he should pay but after getting to know him I am willing to pay.
It is hard to know when to offer to and when not. Some men are offended by the woman paying. After reading all the comment on this site , I dont think I want to try the dating site.. I have a lot of love in my heart for the right person.
I feel it is very important to keep the romantic fire going in a relationship. If you think we can get along kindly get intouch on jjderickk at g mail.. Hey Derick, what state do you currently live in? And what is your age, and what age women were you or are you looking for? Let me know your status if you want to. If not, I hope you found the women you wanted and are happy. Write me on here and I will reply WKR.
It seems that experts are out there rating dating sites. However, their flowing reviews are vastly different than those who actually have experienced the sites and used them. However, we know that people who do reviews tend to be critical and maybe not bother to review if something works well.
As a male, and I am 64, these sites are difficult to have success with. A fellow can initiate numerous messages and for the most part, be ignored. Ladies , again, due to the imbalance, hear from numerous men, and therefore are in total control.
The ladies look nice and there are many seemingly on the site, but men will overwhelmingly be ignored. I tried it and would never consider it again. The profiles may be old or fabricated.
I am finishing up a 6 month membership with them. The rates are reasonable. Again, for every 15 ladies you contact with thoughtfully crafted, sincere messages, expect to hear back from ladies.
Then , due to the competition, communication with a lady can very easy come to a halt with you wondering why this is so, where did she go? I did meet a couple of ladies from this site but disappointing considering my efforts. I have not tried it yet.
However, I previewed the ladies on this site. They appear very nice, but I have seen that before. I did notice however, that quite a few of the ladies about 60 yrs. Why is this so? Again, it points to the numerical imbalance favoring the ladies. I am financially and emotionally responsible. That said, the odds on dating sites count against me and make success a needle in a haystack.
It is difficult for men and I am sure that females have their own issues such as security. In life, career, etc. I get along with ladies just fine.
On dating sites, being ignored, lied to, deceived etc. I tried match and it is a waste of time, talk about unrealistic. I thought we women as we get older must be the problem but those types of men, and there are plenty definitely have and are the problem.
So dating sites may work for a few but for the most part I would say no. Phil, you sound really nice and sincere. I disagree with you Phil. I have just started with these dating sites about a month ago and am already turned off by all the fake profiles.
The men that I have corresponded with have not been anything to write home about. The last jerk and yes he was a jerk completely forgot that we had made plans to meet only two days after we talked. When I sent him a text confirming, he responded with I completely forgot all about it. If he changed his mind, he should have been a big boy about it and been honest with me.
Instead his reply made me feel awful. And this is a man in his 50s. I thought guys would have grown up by that age. Well, probably not on these websites. I find the problem with many men.. They take pix with rumpled shirts.. Or their profile pix shows them far away.. I partially agree with you in most areas. I turned 72 in July and after a 46 year marriage, ending in his death, I finally put my self out there. I dated a few, not so interesting men, and then I met the one.
After 6 months I realized he has Alzheimer and his family moved him back home. Several months later I met a real heart breaker. We dated for 10 months and I fell head over heals in love with him only for him to go back to his ex-wife. You just have to week-out the fake, I guess.
I think mine has run out and I just need to move on!!! You may be right, Joan…. No companionship, enjoyment of life with another. I cannot speak for all males. They do not know about manners or how to properly respect women. Sorry you experience this. However, my being polite and honest may be setting myself up to be deceived, as ironic as that may sound. You seem pretty well educated in this area.
Hi Phil I know how you feel. Locations would be nice here. We could stop wasting time with people from demographic areas that are out of reach. Yes, I know, planes go everywhere, however, I need to be on land first: Where are you Phil? Hi Phil, We women also experience a degree of frustration with online dating as well. Why you ask women want , sex. Where are you located at Phil?? I am Phil, a disillusioned fellow who tried internet dating. I have been honest with ladies but in a few instances have been met with deceit and fabrications.
A lady tells me I seem like such a nice fellow but she has met someone she wants to give a chance to. They have had 3 dates. However, this lady, and it has happened twice to me, remains on 2 dating sites for months.
In both instances, I wish them well and say the fellow they have chosen is a lucky gentleman. I strongly believe they are just fabricating this new relationship that they mention to me.. Why would both of these ladies keep their profile up if their story were true? Honestly, I have heard other stories too. In regular life, I really do not encounter people being as deceptive, evasive, or inconsistent. I had the same done to me and I believe that telling you they met someone else is a way for some women to reject you nicely.
So they fabricate the story of meeting someone new. I know that many of these women connect with multiple males at once because it boosts their ego. I had connected with a few who would ask me a question and I would reply only to wait for them to respond for over an hour to answer each time due to them corresponding with other men.
It does not make sense. Is there enough men like this floating around on dating sites, that a fellow like me is easily discarded. I know how important aesthetics are on dating sites. I try to communicate with ladies who would be in my league.
However, dating sites give the ladies the advantage. However, i do realize that ladies have issues regarding security, I do get that. I assume you have found a women by now that was suitable for you and not a phony diva type that lied and sent you a fake photo and deceived you or gave you an excuse…I hope all is well. Otherwise you can contact me so we can chat. Write if you want and tell me about yourself, no fakeness here, just genuine conversation and no games.
How old are you and what age were you or are you looking for? If you found someone, let me know, if not you can send me an e-mail…wkrhilly gmail. As a 62 year old woman, I find it near to impossible to meet anyone even remotely within my area who ARE someone I would like to get to know better.
I care nothing for one night stands, nor friends with benefits people. I just am not that type of person. I can do that myself. But a nice companion for dinners and movies would be nice. It seems however that men my age want someone in the bracket.
Who does one trust? At this point, after e harmony, Match. I totally understand your comments.. I paiid Our Time 6months met one man and after month talking.. I was so shocked after xoffee I never spoke to him again… So many years younger pics they post… Be honest post current pics. Hey everyone I was on Our time 3 different times and all 3 times met great guys or so I thought the first only lasted a couple of months he wanted to be possessive.
I have decided to reenter the dating game after 15 years of keeping silent and to myself with family. I just woke up one day and decided at 66, I want to meet a man that has similar likes and dislikes as me. I have a small farm that I dearly love working on and grow all my food, including chickens. It is almost impossible to find a man that likes this sort of lifestyle, much less wants to be involved in it.
The perfect partner for me would certainly be a small farmer that loves the soil and works it with love every day. He would also have to like salt water fishing because next to the soil that is a big love of mine as well. So it is not going to happen for me unless I take the time and pursue this in places where farmers and fishing are prevalent.
Therefore, I will begin to go to those farmer days and outings and I will spend lots more time at the beach fishing. If I meet someone special that is great. Good luck to everyone looking and be safe always. Hi Linda, thanks for your comment. Linda I totally identify with what you said.
In up state NY my options are almost non existent Love to fish be in the oods and grow things. As I read your comment,I felt a little ftustrated.
I have the same comments about these sites as everyone else. I was on Farmers Only for several months and experienced much disappointment. In my profile,I stated who and what I was and that I desired to connect with woman who enjoyef rural life. Truly believe most women on that site were looking for a dtugstore cowboy with a new shiny truck. None of the women on Farmers say they wanted to meet a man with rural roots which I found rather odd.
You just have to keep turning stones. BOB, where is your farm located, and what age women are you looking for or are you looking at all? What is your age? I love rural living and farm life. I am not as into that as I used to be years ago, but still like to cook and especially like to enjoy my food with somebody.
It just taste better when there is somebody to enjoy it with. I know as a senior female I would never be able to find a man who is under 55 or I have been alone for almost 7 years. My husband passed away due to lung failure and he was 64 at the time.
I think age is only a number. SO, never say never. Send me an e-mail I you want to, would like to know about your rural life…wkrhilly gmail. Strange but unlike most comments here I have found the dating sites overwhelmingly populated by cougars. The 61 yr old female looking for 25 to 50 yr old men.
I no longer frequent any of them since most ladies never respond to any show of interest but keep coming back to view my profile but never leaving a message at all. One thing I am not looking for is more frustration in my life.
Marsha Your message is exactly how i feel. Still full time employed and self sufficient, divorced for over 12 years. Not interested in sleeping around. Just want companionship for events, listening to oldies music from the 70s, trips and just exchange experiences and laugh a lot.
But looks like there are NO men going for that. Ive decided to just join cultural, gardening and volunteer groups where I can meet people face to face. However, this article is extremely honest and well written.
You have to keep safe and keep playing. Lots of people I know are now part of a twosome. Oh Really am new to all this i have also meet a lady that posted her old pictures when she was young. After reading some of the shared comments, I would like to add my two cents worth. It does seem to be challenging to meet quality people for me -men that would like to have q good relationship with a good woman Their mouth or pen is moving.
What is wrong with getting to know a person first? Finding out if you like each other enough to forsake others and try to see if you two can make a go of it? At our age we should have experience enough life to know what basically is negotiable vs is nonnegotiable.
How about being comfortable with not only who you are, but where you are in life? No, I am not talking about sitting all day in a rocker and playing dead. But , enjoying life with whatever disabilities, lumps bumps, etc. Now a days-there seems to be more inference on sex than anything else.
Sex-when has that ever determine the value of any relationship? Whatever happen to wanting to get to know one another? Which can lead to true friendship and companionship.
Do you remember when you could talk to each other about everything and nothing-but still enjoying just being together? How about when you were looking across the room at each other , and sharing that special smile -that special look that said so much?.
Yet to others, it said nothing-but to you two ahhh-it was like a secret code that only the two of you knew. Well, Steve Harvey always says the 90 day rules applies to everyone. Yes Dorene I agree with you as well. I love Steve Harvey and own both of his books on relationships. What he is saying makes a lot of sense.
I was in a very bad marriage for 26 years that was hard for me to get out of as my ex was abusive in very many ways. Since I have been out in the dating world I find that everything seems to have changed.
But after 26 years I was sure it would be. When I left my ex and found a gentleman who truly was a gentleman and waited to approach me about being intimate. It may have not been the 90 days but it was a while and we dated for four years. So now I hope that I can find someone who would at least give the relationship time instead of hopping in the sack.
I see a psychologist because of my past and let him know of what I am finding in this new world of dating. The bottom line is men and there are women as well are not respectful of one another anymore. I wish everyone well with their searches and may God bless you.
What a well written post, and I totally agree with everything that you said. What happened to men who respected you for the person you are and enjoyed being in your company for the purpose of conversation and connecting mentally? Does anyone believe in companionship or friendship anymore? Would love to meet a man with honest values and one who is capable of making a commitment. Men Do want younger women and younger men want Sugar Mamas!
These dating sites have been a joke. Just stumbled upon this site, loving it. Well I just stumbled onto this site too. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and honesty of the posts here Your post is something i could have said too about women. I think the sad truth is that most people are not capable of having a truly intimate relationship.
It seems the older people are, the more it is true. Most people become more rigid the older they get, and certainly more set in their ways, making them less likely to give up the freedom they have as a single person.
I think most of us like the idea of being in a loving relationship. What i have found out is that finding someone who can actually show up when the heat is on and wants to be with me, and i want to be with her is rare, especially being over sixty. Having a personality and mutual respect is what the foundation should be for any relationship regardless of the age of those involved. It is true that the men are seeking sex….. Just be honest if u want a friend with benefits then let the guy know.
If u are not into the guy, pay your own way on the date and move on down the line. No gentleman wants to be considered as an entertainment center at this point in his life and would hope that the woman in his company actually enjoyed his company and was not simply with him for A Night out and a free meal.
Of course, it is my belief that doing the everyday things of life….. Will let us know if we are compatible with one another…. Sitting across from you at some restaurant tells me nothing about you except your table manners. For me at this stage of my life …66…. Best of luck to each of you…. After reading some of the comments about online dating sites I would like to make a comment about Plenty of Fish.
I thought it was a really good website until I got kicked off because all of my emails from them kept going in my spam. Try to get back on there and it is next to impossible. I have written to them several times to see if they could help me get back on. The scammers are everywhere on all of these sites. I was almost scammed 3 times I am ashamed to admit but they are very devious! I am 61 years old and find that most of the men I talk to have nothing but sex on their mind.
I think our world is going to hell really quick. It is very depressing and I wish there were more honest people on these sites and not jerks! Needless to say I am still looking for a good man. In March when I officially retire I think I am going to start looking at activities through churches and community buildings to try to meet people. It seems to me that would be the only way to meet someone as I am not a bar hopper or nor do I go to clubs.
I don't care what you do with it as long as you're clean. Another extremely vital component of your physical presence is your clothing. Dress to impress, am I right? Don't dress as the man you are, dress as the man you want to be… or, more fittingly, don't dress for the women you've had, dress for the woman you want.
You don't need to be clued into fashion at all to be stylish; in my opinion, fashion and style are two completely separate things. That being said, if you have your ear to the ground when it comes to trends, good for you! My only advice is to not go full on hype-beast when you're out with a potential hookup or out trying to hunt for one. If you show up in some wild outfit, you're likely going to either come across as too into-yourself or as too difficult to approach.
If you're dressed like you just rolled off the runway, you might be too intimidating. You want to be stylish and dress like yourself, but you also want to be approachable. So save your drop-crotch pants and your Yeezy esc outfit for after you've already banged the girl. Make sure you're yourself while dressed appropriately for the place you're at. If the event you're at calls for a crazy outfit — a la EDC or an event of the like — then that's okay.
However, if you're going to a more casual place or event — like a smaller music venue or a bar, for example, — then make sure you're toning it down. If you're not super into fashion, going over the top might not be something you're worried about at all.
That being said, it's always better to be slightly over-dressed than under-dressed. There's no harm in wearing a button down out or throwing on a blazer if you're unsure about how formal you need to be on a night out. If you're unsure, I recommend taking the formality one baby-step up from what you think is okay.
Being slightly over-dressed will make you seem more adult and believe me, ladies like a guy who can rock some form-fitting slacks. Have a designated power outfit for going out. Have an outfit in your closet that you know you look good in and feel like a badass in. This way if you don't know what to wear on any given night, you always have something ready to go that you know you're going to feel confident in. Facial hair for a man is either a thing of pride or a huge point of anxiety.
There doesn't seem to be much in between. And because facial hair is on your face it's just as important — if not more so — than what you choose to wear. If you're capable of growing a full-on mountain man beard then, by all means, go for it. Beards are sexy, but nasty beards are the absolute worst. There should be nothing in your beard other than some nice-smelling beard oil.
Your face foliage should be completely free of crumbs and other debris that might find their way into your facial plumage. To prevent your magnificent whiskers from becoming any less than well-groomed wash your beard, oil it, and keep it well trimmed. If you don't trust yourself around scissors, then find the best barbershop in town and make a regular customer out of yourself.
And when you're out on dates, hanging with a regular hookup, or going out on the town, keep a comb in your pocket. This way you can keep any crumbs out of your beard and keep it looking bomb for the ladies. Now, if there is any doubt that your facial hair actually connects or that it looks good… it's time to be honest with yourself. Don't try to attempt going full-on-brawny-man if your facial hair looks more like fuzz than forest.
Keep your facial hair to a nice 5 O-clock shadow that frames your face an accentuates your jawline. Or just accept that you can't grow a beard and embrace the babyface. If you're expecting to bring a lady friend back to your place, the state of your apartment is going to be just as important as your state of dress — if not slightly more important.
Similar to your outfit, your apartment is a direct reflection of you and whether or not you're an absolute mess. So if your apartment looks like a hurricane just passed through, you have some work to do my friend…. Does your apartment remotely resemble the aftermath of a frat party? Can you remember the last time you did dishes? How old is the food in your fridge? Are your sheets soaked in so much bodily-fluids that they're stiff?
Dude, get your shit together. If you want to bring a girl back to your place, you shouldn't have to worry about losing her in a mountain of laundry or that stack of empty pizza boxes collapsing on her. If you want to get laid and have her potentially coming back for more, you need to step up your cleaning game. Before having a girl over, or going out with the expectation of bringing a girl home, clean your fucking house.
Do your dishes, or at least hide them in the dishwasher — hell, why not run it while you're at it. Put your laundry away, or at least pile it in your closet and close the door. And change your sheets, or at least make your bed and spray it with some Fabreeze. It doesn't matter how well you dress if your apartment is destroyed. You're going to look like a slob. And it's embarrassing to hook up with a total slob.
While the term "bachelor pad" sounds sexy… homes of single guys are usually a little sad looking. So it might help to scroll through Pinterest — yes, I said it. I said Pinterest — and get some decorating ideas. Obviously this isn't something you should be looking to do hours before a potential hookup opportunity, but taking some time to make your apartment look interesting and cool will help you in the long run.
Find some interesting posters, and if you already have some, put them in frames. You'd be amazed how much of a difference a frame makes. You go from college bro to distinguished young professional in seconds. Buy some candles that don't smell like a thousand flowers.
There are some manly, sexy candle scents that you can find at Target or Urban Outfitters go for things with notes of tobacco and vanilla. Buy a throw-blanket, and a couple throw-pillows for your bed. Get an interesting coffee table book or something. You'll figure it out. This show will give you a good idea of what vibe to go for and make you feel emotions you haven't felt in years.
Okay, so I'm a firm believer in a guy owning some sex toys that aren't dedicated to solo male use. If you have a Fleshlight, that's a good start… but that's not going to help satisfy any lady.
You should really invest in a nice external vibrator. You can use these to heighten your masturbatory efforts when you're on your own, but you can easily use them when hooking up with a girl. Both of these are body safe, great quality, and easy to use with an unlubricated condom that's what you should use with sex toys. And no, they aren't cheap. But you'll appreciate the investment in the long run you can get attachments for masturbating, they're totally worth it and so will any girl you hookup with.
Just make sure you make it very clear to her that you are good about sterilizing the toy. Using a condom with it and having toy cleaner or one of these bad-boys handy, will allow both you and your lady friend to play with piece-of-mind knowing that your toys are nice and clean. Having toys on hand, like vibrators, will leave the impression that you're interested in your partner's pleasure which is what every woman wants but seldom gets from a partner.
When you're hoping that your night will end in a hookup, you should channel your inner boy scout and always be prepared. The last thing you want is for things to start escalating only to figure out that neither of you has a condom. Here are a few things that you should always have on you when you're going out or hanging out with a potential hookup: When you're out, trying to woo a girl the last thing you want to do is have to worry about your breath.
Quite frankly, you don't know what your evening is going to throw at you. Yes, you want to be hookup ready, but you also don't want to have to have to worry about what drunk-food and tequila are doing to your breath. So, always keep a pack of gum on you. This way you can go about your night without worrying what your mouth might taste like later. Plus, when you're talking close, and she catches a whiff of mint — instead of beer breath — she'll definitely want to kiss you.
And when a guy suddenly smells fresh after a night out, you usually know that he's set on leaning in for that kiss. Always keep one of these in your pocket for later, because it might end up being just as important to your night as a condom.
Women usually keep a hair tie around their wrist or in their purse. However, they manage to disappear in situations when you need them the most. Hair ties seem to be the most elusive when you're getting ready to give a blowjob. Now I know that carrying one might not seem like your responsibility unless you're the kind of dude who's rocking a man bun. In that case you have a perfect excuse as to why you have one. I wouldn't recommend wearing one around your wrist unless you have long flowing hair because having a hair tie around your wrist can be just as repelling as a wedding ring.
Girls might think that your hair tie belongs to a girlfriend and dodge you as if you were married. So keep the hair tie in your pocket. And if she asks why say that you keep on in case you get lucky. If saying that makes you feel too cocky, then say it belongs to a platonic female friend, and you just so happened to have it on you.
I don't think that a girl should be too concerned as to why you have one because it's not that uncommon for a guy to come across a hair tie in the wild. In some fraternities, they keep hair ties on them in the hopes that they get laid or in case one of their brothers get lucky. If they ask, say that you picked up the habit in college!
Okay, this should be really obvious. Obviously try to keep a condom on you if you're trying to get laid… duh. But make sure to keep a few things in mind regarding condoms, like that they actually do expire. Yes, make sure you're paying attention to the expiration date on your trusty wallet condom. If it's past the date, throw it out and swap it for a new one. Speaking of wallet condoms… that's actually not the best place to put them. Your body heat and the friction from it being kept amongst credit cards will wear the condom down.
Try to keep the condom in a jacket pocket but not the same pocket as your keys! If it looks worn down or like it could have been punctured, toss it. The best place for condoms is in cool dark places. So if you don't feel like carrying them, make sure to keep them bedside at the very least. Though it's always good to have one on you if you're going out, use your judgment.
If it looks old and tossed-around, it's probably not going to protect you from anything. Lovability's condoms are probably my absolute favorite because they're packaged in a durable container so less chance of tearing , they don't smell like Autozone, and they're packaged right-side-up which is great for trembling hands.
This next item might not seem as obvious as the others. However, it's very important. I'm a huge proponent of lube. And while lube might not be as important as condoms when it comes to safety, lube is almost vital when it comes to the actual deed. When you're doin' the do after a night out, you might have noticed that while it might be harder for you to perform it's also harder to just get it in to begin with.
Whiskey dick is a catchy phrase, but sometimes women suffer from — for lack of a better phrase — whiskey vagina. Everyone knows that when you drink you get dehydrated, but what everyone might not know is that dehydration directly effects how wet a girl can get. So if you're planning on drinking pre-hookup, it might be a good idea to keep some lube on you.
You can buy little one use packets that you can easily slip in your front pocket. Not your back pocket; that could be a disaster. If you plan on going back to yours, make sure to keep a bottle of lube in your bedside table along with all your condoms. And make sure you buy plain ol' lube. Don't buy anything that advertising a tingling sensation or that's flavored. Because "tingling" lube usually just straight up burns and flavored lube usually has glucose in it which makes it unsafe for putting it inside a vagina.
When you're trying to get laid on any given night, you have to try. Very seldom is a girl going to just fall into your lap and be willing to go home with you. So, you need to employ a few strategies when hunting for potential hookup prospects. As a dude, you're usually expected to be on the offensive when it comes to asking to hang out or hookup. Here are a few ways to do that: When it comes to texting, no one ever wants to be the one texting first. Especially if you've been left on read or you were the last one to respond to a dying conversation.
It takes some balls, but boy can it be worth it. If there's a girl in your phone who you've been flirting with or have hooked up in the past shoot her a text and hope for the best. Send something subtly flirty and be direct with what you want. But don't be too direct; no girl wants to get a text that says something like, "hey, we should have sex". So be direct without being too candid, something like "Hey!
What are you up to tonight? What are your plans for this weekend? I'd love to see you" gives off a flirty vibe without being too overtly sexual. Throw in a winky emoji or a smiley face for good measure. I know that texting first, especially double texting, can be a point of anxiety for most but if you want to get anywhere with a girl you're going to have to be okay with taking a risk.
If you're nervous about what she might say send the text and then walk away from your phone. This way you won't feel tempted to hover over your phone in anticipation. Though throwing your phone across your room will keep you from texting other potential hookups. So cast your net wide and send a couple flirty text to try to make plans, but instead of tossing your phone into an abyss put some girls you're particularly nervous about on do not disturb. You'll be free to text other girls or scroll down Twitter without feeling too anxious about responses rolling in.
Tinder, and other dating apps alike, are arguably the most reliable ways to find a hookup. Even if girls are looking for a longterm partner on a dating app, they're usually okay with fooling around in the process. With that being said, swipe right! Log on to your favorite dating up, spruce up your profile a little bit, and go for it!
Swipe right on a ton of girls. Swipe right on any girl that you would be remotely interested in sleeping with because with dating apps you have to cast your net extremely wide. Because let's be honest, you're not going to message have the girls and they're probably not going to message first. It's harder to message first when you don't know the person.
They're going to feel less obligated to reply since they don't know you. It's hard to establish that connection with a bad pickup line and a cheesy gif.
Message a large number of your matches and see if anything sparks! Set a time to meet up at a bar or a party and see if anything catches fire in real life! Do you know a girl, but not well enough to have her number?
Do you and a girl habitually like each other's tweets, but never really talk? Maybe it's time to actually talk to your WCW. There is no harm in sliding into a girl's DMs. It's less nerve-wracking then messaging a girl you already know pretty well, and you're more likely to get a response than you are by hitting on Tinder girls.
Like one of her tweets or grams and then follow it up with a compliment in her DMs. Don't be afraid to be a little more flirty than you usually would be; girls get plenty of guys sliding into their DMs, you're going to definitely need to stick out from the pack if you want a response. If she responds, take that as a good sign and try to keep the conversation going. If you can manage to keep a conversation going in her DMs, then try to transition the conversation from online to in person by asking her if she has plans or if you could buy her a drink sometime.
Now that you have initiated contact with a potential hookup, it's time to get your flirt on. If you want to get laid, you need to cultivate that connection with sincere compliments, well-timed jokes, and occasional subtly sexy innuendos. A lot of guys are flirtatiously inept. However, a general rule of thumb is that if you're making her sincerely laugh, then you're probably doing a good job.
These steps that you need to somewhat nail if you want to nail her. Flirting isn't strictly limited to what you say and the vibes you give out. Flirting is highly physical as well. Your body language says just as much about what you want as your words do.
Make sure that when you're talking with your girl that you keep your body language open and inviting. If you're sitting down, point you knees and feet at her. If you're standing make sure to stand across from her or pivot your body toward her when talking in a group.
Don't cross your arms or put something physical — like a backpack or briefcase — between the two of you; these are examples of closed body language and may give the impression that you're not into her. Another thing you should do to make sure you're giving her all the right vibes is to touch her.
And no I don't mean inappropriately hopefully that'll come later. When you're hanging out — whether you be at a bar or in private — try to make 3 points of contact.
A few examples include reaching out to brush her hair away from her face, touching her hand, touching her shoulder or looping your arm with hers while walking. These points of contact should be affectionate without being overtly sexual, and purposeful. Accidentally brushing her hand with yours does not count.
I'm a believer that for some alcohol is certainly liquid courage. But I'm also an active believer that for most too much alcohol is fuel for stupid decisions.
That being said, I'm not totally against drinking when trying to hookup. Sometimes a beer or two, or three is what you need to build the courage to talk to that girl at the bar or finally ask her if she wants to "get out of here".
I am however against sloppy drunk hookups, especially when you're hooking up with someone for the first time. Odds are you probably don't know them very well, or if you do, you don't know them sexually at all. Knowing and trusting someone even if it's only a little bit is important even when you're looking for a fling.
So stick to wine or beer if you can't trust yourself to go overboard on the liquor. Make sure you order a glass of water in between drinks and actually drink it. Don't worry about looking like a square when watching how much you drink; you'll look mature, cool, and collected. The last thing you want to do is have one-too-many and completely ruin your chances with a girl.
Next to humor, confidence is paramount when it comes to closing. If you don't think you're capable of closing, you're probably not going to close. Feeling confident is something everyone has to work on. It's a total fake-it-till-you-make it scenario. Even if you're insecure, you need to put on a front that you're somewhat confident.
This is why grooming is so important in the hooking up equation; because even if you don't feel like the most confident man in the room, dressing well will help you get there.
Plus, no well-groomed guy is going to look like they lack in self-esteem. However, there is a huge difference between acting confident and cocky.
For some, it's hard to toe that line. So when you're speaking, have a filter. Make sure that nothing coming out of your mouth sounds douchey and self-obsessed. This is why it's important for a lot of guys to watch how much they're drinking; for a good amount of guys they become more cocky with each drink. Believe me; I understand that you want to get laid. I understand that if given the option, you'd probably want to get laid right here and right now. I understand how you might feel a sense of urgency, especially if you're in the midst of a particularly lengthy dry spell.